my room’s finally coming together 🍑
Sylvia Rivera calling out gays and lesbians for their trans exclusion in 1973 at the Christopher Street Liberation Day rally (x)
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juliaan lampens, kapel van kerselaere (2013)
Nuevo Laredo, Mexico, 1996 by Alex Webb.
Toxic masculinity says that a man is only as good as what he can accomplish. When it comes to sex, this can often mean “To be a man, I have to achieve orgasm/ejaculation” or “I have to win as many sex partners as I can.”
These days, it can also mean “I have to give my partner the most intense pleasure possible.” Because if she has a body-shaking orgasm, it’s a mark of his skill and prowess. And if she doesn’t have an orgasm at all, it feels like a personal failure to him.
For the female partner, this can turn into yet another way she has to perform emotional labor. When her experience of pleasure becomes tied to his ego, then she often feels pressure to have a big, showy orgasm for him… even if that’s not how her body works.
US Vogue May 1986
Photo by Wayne Maser. Models: Estelle Lefébure & Ashely Richardson. Hair by: Sam McKnight
